Author | Sophie Luo

If one gives an answer before he hears, it is his folly and shame. (Proverbs 18:13)

未曾听完先回答的，便是他的愚昧和羞辱。（箴言 18:13）

Have you ever reacted quickly and emotionally to what another person had just said, without asking them what they really meant by what they said and getting clarification, but only found out later that you had misunderstood them, that they didn’t mean what you thought they meant?

你是否曾对别人说的话快速和情绪化地作出反应，却没有先问对方他们究竟是什么意思或请他们作出澄清，而后来却发现是你误会了他们，他们所要表达的意思并不是你以为的那样？

Unfortunately, I have done that many times. Thanks be to God that by His grace, He used a friend in my life to gently advice me not to assume what another person meant, but to ask more questions to understand them better. This is counsel of great wisdom, and the Holy Spirit often reminds me and prompts me to think of this in conversations with others, especially when I feel or suspect that the other person might have an evil intent, so that I do not misunderstand them and act quickly and emotionally like a fool, and in so doing sin against God and against the other person.

遗憾的是，这种事情我做过很多次了。感谢上帝出于祂的恩典，通过一位朋友温柔地建议我不要假定别人的意思，而要多问对方几个问题，以便更好地理解他们。这是非常有智慧的劝言，圣灵也常常提醒和敦促我在与他人对话时考虑这一点，尤其是在我感觉或怀疑对方似乎是有恶意时，以免我误解对方并像愚昧人一样快速和情绪化地作出反应，从而犯罪得罪上帝和对方。

Listening well is so critical in our interactions with others. The Lord teaches us how to listen in Proverbs 18:15, “The mind of the prudent acquires knowledge, And the ear of the wise seeks knowledge.” We are to listen with an open heart, open mind that is centered on Christ (i.e., listening with the goal to glorify God), and we are to take the active role, to “seek knowledge” – one practical application of this “seek knowledge” is doing our best to seek to know and understand what the other person is truly expressing, not what we think/assume that they are saying, and to not assume that they have an evil or bad motive. May the Lord give us wisdom and grace to listen well and love with humility and kindness, bringing Him glory and honor!

在我们与他人的互动中，良好的倾听至关重要。上帝在箴言 18:15中教导我们如何倾听：“聪明人的心得知识；智慧人的耳求知识。”我们需要怀着以基督为中心（即以荣耀神为目的）的开放心态去聆听，并主动地“求知识”——这“求知识”的实际应用之一就是努力寻求了解和理解对方真正要表达的意思，而不是我们认为或假定对方要表达的意思，并且不要假定对方有邪恶或不好的动机。愿上帝赐予我们智慧和恩典，让我们能够很好地倾听，并以谦卑、恩慈的心去爱对方，荣耀神！

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